In my journey of motherhood I have come across something that makes me sad and fuels my desire for change; the negative attitude towards a mother's body after giving birth. I know that many moms feel that when they first take the "plunge" of mommiehood that there bodies and lives will never be the same again. While this is true, I have now chosen to view this positively. I know for me I was terrified thinking of how different my life was going to be once I held my baby for the first time. But I have to say that a lot of my fear came from the people and influences around me.
Society says, "You will never wear that again..." or "Get use to never doing that again..." or "Once your a mom, kiss that goodbye..." I know sometimes the negativity wasn't intentional and caused from personal experiences and influences surrounding them but for me it just was not okay. For everyone it is different, but once I held my little baby in my arms any negative comment made towards me flew out the window. All I cared about was him.
Now of course, when I came home I looked like crap (I really did...don't try to be nice) and I felt like crap but I was so incredibly happy. The happiness created a beauty that no one could take from me. It was the beauty of motherhood.
My son is now 9 months old and I have realized that so many women forget about themselves once they become a parent. I refuse to be one of those moms. My husband knows when I am feeling insecure or unsure of myself and he practically bites my head off. I have realized that no matter how much people tell me that I look fine it just doesn't cut it until I really believe it myself. Now I do.
Beauty changes when you birth a child. It doesn't go away. It changes. I think a woman becomes more beautiful when they have brought life into this world. It is such a huge gift. My body doesn't look the way it use to, it has scars now...scars of life. Without those scars I wouldn't have the most amazing son in the world. Now I am not saying that I am going to run around in a bikini and say "Check me out" because that's just awkward. I DO know who I am and what my body has been through and it was worth it. I know I am beautiful because I feel beautiful. If you know who you are you are going to radiate confidence. You are beautiful. There will be blah days, of course. No one is perfect but if you have the right people around you, they are going to make those blah days into beautiful days. Now, mommie's around the world... let's lift up our shirts and say THIS IS BEAUTY. I AM BEAUTIFUL.
0 comments:
Post a Comment